Wednesday, August 05, 2009

sha: infidelity equals to curang

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Infidelity is a violation of the mutually agreed-upon rules or boundaries of an intimate relationship, which constitutes a significant breach of faith or a betrayal of core shared values with which the integrity of the relationship is defined. In common use, it describes an act of unfaithfulness to one’s husband, wife, or lover, whether sexual or non-sexual in nature.

I have been asking questions like "how curang is curang?" or "is talking consider as curang?" or " who defines curang?"

My questions are not answered yet. Not until today. But I do wish that my questions will be answered one day:

1. If you don't have any formal relationship with someone, is talking to another person/going out with someonemakes u curang?

2. Does exchanging phone number consider as curang?

3. A man has a wife and a girlfriend. If the man is being happy with the girlfriend, then he is cheating his wife. Will the man consider as curang with the girlfriend when he is being happy with his wife? (another way around).

Tell me fellas, how do u consider curang?:)

* sha is having maggots in her head~! Hahahaha....


Anonymous said...

Alamak !

Kak tie tak terfikir pulak soal curang..... sebab tak pernah hadapinya.

Kak tie - still seorang makcik yang innocent, ekekekeke..........

♠ y.a.n.i.e putrajaya ♠ said...


pernah lite2 je


Suzi said...

sha, apasal cerita pasal cutang ni?
sape yg curang? sape yg jadi mangsa kecurangan?

Areej said...

pandangan aku sha:
curang only happens when u've made a commitment to somebody.

to answer ques no 1. klu xde r/s with anyone, maknanya xde commitment, therefore mcmana nk curang?

ques 2. depends. might be considered curang klu a history dgn the guy yg kite tukar no tu, n kite punye bf/partner x tahu.

ques 3. if a man is happy with his wife, he cannot be considered curang dgn gf dia. bcos he made a commitment with his wife i.e. marriage. his commitment to his wife lebih tinggi di mata agama, moral, budaya n masyarakat drp commitment dia to his gf.

my two cents je :)

Areej said...

oops, salah type la. correction:
ques 2. depends. might be considered curang klu ada 'history' atau niat lain dgn the guy yg kite tukar no tu, n kite punye bf/partner x tahu.

Quiyah said...

sha, curang is when u already comitted to someone but behind the one that u have comitted,u went out with someone else that u have feelings for.

cHeRyNa PiReS said...

kak tie:
---> yes...kak tie mmg makcik yg innocent...ehehehe...

---> silap lite2 tuh camne yanie?

kak suzi:
---> ntah la...dok melihat gelagat kawan2 dan dok terpikir jugak...

---> thanks! aku sangat suke pendapat ko(and btw, i miss u a lot!) maknenye, kalo setakat bf, tak boleh kate curang lagi ek? kalo dah kawen baru leh kate curang ke? what if the marriage is not a happy marriage?

---> maknenye ade perasaan kat dua2 ke?

Areej said...

sha...i miss u too!!!! :) happy sgt ko dah kembali blogging semula :)

tp pd pndangan aku, klu dgn bf pon boleh dikatakan curang, sbb kita dah buat commitment dgn bf kita.

tp klu kita dah ada suami n at the same time juga ada bf, then kita curang dgn suami kita, sbb commitment kite terhadap suami lebih tinggi nilainya drp commitement terhadap bf.

pd pandanganaku, kalau kita dah kawin tp x bahagia dgn the marriage, kita masih ada commitment terdahap suami/istri kite selagi ur still married to him/her. klu curang dgn dia still dianggap curang coz you have made a commitment. patutnya klu x bahagia, just get out of the marriage, baru lah takde commitment dah n ur free to do anything u want...

Anonymous said...

if u have the time try watching the movie 'the last kiss' with zach braff (the guy frm scrubs). it sums it up nicely... that there will always b girls who will try to get the guy's attention (be it u as the one being cheated on or encouraging the cheater to cheat).

and then move over to 'he's just not that into you' and there u will see the disappointment of the cheatee because the cheater had sex with his wife while the cheatee was hiding in the closet. i dont think the 'other girl' has any rights to get pissed off when the ending doesnt go her way tho.

and if u read any mags out there, the bottomline is cheating is wrong, physically or emotionally (emotionally being more damaging most times) and they'll say as the other girl there's absolutely no rights to expect anything or get angry when he spends time with his formal partner, because the nature of the relationship is that it is not permanent (but of course there are exceptions).

if u asked me, i'd say it's the choices that u make... guy and other girl or vice versa... and the consequences of ur actions u have to face.