Monday, September 14, 2009

sha: love as a knowledge




I received a comment from a blogger stated that the widow and 7 sons ad was not made by Yasmin Ahmad. Perhaps I should've made my posting a bit clearer. I should apologise for the unclear message. Sorry!!!

The one showed by Dato' Mahadzir Lokman in his facebook was the one made by Yasmin Ahmad but the one showed in my blog was not. It was made by a guy (can't remember his name).

Okay...but I'm not going to talk about who made this one though. I just want to talk about this memory I had when I watched this ad after several years:

My B: Sayang...?
Me: Yeee...(he is in the mood to talk)
My B: Minggu nieh ada hal?
Me: Balik Seremban.
My B: Tiap2 minggu balik (he grumbled)
Me: Mestilah.
My B: Tapi kenapa selalu sangat balik?
Me: Sebab dulu tak tinggal dgn diorang.
My B: I pun tak tinggal ngan parents!
Me: Sebab I taknak buat apa yang u buat ni.
My B: Meaning? (he raised his voice a bit)
Me: U sekolah kat KL, belajar sini, keje sini. Berapa tahun u spent time kat kampung?
My B: Tapi I lain. Parents I selalu turun sini.
Me: Diorang je kena turun jumpa u. U jarang balik kan?
My B: Jauh la sayang...
Me: Boleh naik flight kan...
My B: Tak ada apa jadi punya.
Me: U sure?
My B: Yelah!
Me: B...tak baik cakap macam tuh.
My B: Tak semua org macam u, sayang.
Me: Okay...I tak paksa u balik kampung lagi.

I had to understand at that particular time he had a conflict with his father.

Few months later (in a phone call...)

My B: Sayang...(his voice was broken)
Me: B...
My B: Ibu dah tak ada...
Me: I know...diorang dah cakap.
My B: Sorry...balik tak bagitau.
Me: Take your time,okay? Nak I datang?
My B: Kedah?
Me: Hmmm...
My B: Takda org kat rumah. I sorang je.
(the family has gone to Mecca after the funeral)
Me: Fine. I'll call u?
My B: (and he started crying)
Me: B...?
My B: U won.
Me: What?
My B: I patut balik.
Me: (I was speachless so I let him talk)

The first time we met when he reached KL, he was crying again.

Me: Jangan nangis banyak2. Tak elok.
My B: Sayang?
Me: B...
My B: Don't leave me.
Me: I won't.
My B: Please?
Me: I won't.

And he cried the whole night.

We're no longer together this year. But we're still friends. I'm still holding on to my promises so I'm not leaving. Recently we had some argument which eventually made me sad. I just kept my silence.

One day, I received a call. It was from him. It wasnormal that he rarely said sorry and I was getting angry. But something held me back.

The person has lost his mother and the only person who might have understood his situation was me. Raya has always been a tough time for him. I knew him too well to expect too much. The call was a peace offering even though he didn't say sorry.

So, even though we're no longer lovers this year, I must show my compassion (regardless how frustrated I was when our relationship ended). I had learned from him something very important:

A man who knows how to love his parents will know how to love you:)

Just like the man in the ad. He knows.
Maybe at one point my dear ex-boyfriend didn't know.

2009:
Me: Raya ni u cuti?
Sepet: Cuti...balik Kedah.
Me: Alhamdulillah.
Sepet: U like that, don't u?
Me: Tremendously.
Sepet: Taknak ikut?

Ohok...ohok...ohok...

* My B and Sepet are the same person

18 comments:

cikwan said...

OlllOOOhhh,,buat2 batuk pulak dia tu...tapi saya setuju dengan sha, lelaki yang tau sayangkan keluarga, akan lebeh pandai menghargai dan menyayangi Orang lain..

cikwan said...

sabar ye sha,kumbang bukan seekOr...wahhh..kumbangla pulak..kekkekee....

Ayu said...

aikk.. My B.. kedah.. sepet pun kedah.. mmg sker org kedah ke? anyhow.. best..

Rynn Cowbra said...

sangatlah suka ok with that quote! lalu mcuri and tampal kat pesbuk.ahaks!

KAMATO said...

wajib kita menjenguk ibu bapa selagi mereka hidup

Na Shari said...

Honestly, bila baca conversation sha dengan ex tu...akak pulak yang nangis. Bukan apa...Akak belum ready untuk kehilangan orang-orang yang akak sayang, terutama mak abah.Can't imagine apa akan jadi pada akak kalau mak abah pergi. That's why setiap kali balik kampung, akak mesti peluk mak dengan abah puas-puas, then time dah nak balik KL semula...mesti minta mak abah ampunkan segala kesalahan akak sama ada secara sedar mahupun tak sedar...

Princess Liyana said...

A man who knows how to love his parents will know how to love you:)

alaahai..quote ini sgtla betul yana rasa..alaahai..

salam kenal :)

Quiyah said...

huwaa! sangat betul!!!

sya said...

aduh.. ayat yang bold tu memang betul sangat lah...
tapi, jangan sayang sangat sampai ketepikan kita.. huhu...

*dapat lelaki bongsu, jadi, paham2 je lah.. :P

julietchun said...

ayah dan ibu, itulah permulaan kami
dapat melihat bulan dan matahari :D
kalo tak raya pun buleh balik jenguk kan.

~ Hariza ~ said...

absolutely true..! =)
bila seorang lelaki tahu menyayangi & menghargai ibu ayah mereka, insyaAllah mereka faham erti kasih sayang yg sbnr..

cHeRyNa PiReS said...

cikwan:
---> hihihi...terkejut cikwan, mestilah sha batuk:)

ayu:
---> tuh la...kebetulan je tuh...ehehe...

rynn:
---> waaa....terharunye...lepas nieh kak sha leh jd philosopher...ceh...perasan plak kak sha nieh!:)

kamato:
---> baik...baik...terima kasih nasihat tu ye:)

kak na:
---> adoii...sha plak yg rasa sedih bace komen kak na nieh! hmmm...mungkin ada antara kita yg tak brape sensitif. ataupon rasa tak kisah pon kalau tak tgk selalu. janji jumpa dahlah. tp sha rasa kak na nieh mesti caring orgnye kan. alhamdulillah...untung suami kak na!:)

yana & Q:
---> thanks..thanks...ingatkan anggapan sha nieh salah...rupenye org kate betul. thanks ye...

sya:
---> ehehe...sokong! tp kalau dpt yg caring macam sya takpe kot. very understanding, kan? yg bongsu tuh manja sikit, sya...dats why sya yg matang dlm byk perkara:)

juliet:
---> ooohh..nyanyi lagu sudirman pulak ye:) betul...raya tuh cuma alasan nak balik je. kalau tak raya pun boleh balik:)

hariza:
--->sbb kasih sayang pertama yg diorg belajar adalah kasih sayang ibu bapa. lainlah kalau anak yatim piatu. itupon anak yatim piatu lagi sensitif bab ibu bapa nieh:)

imHepPie said...

wuu sgt rindu mau balek umah....waaaa

blogresipi said...

Nice true story... jangan sampai bila dah kehilangan baru nak menghargai kan..hmmm... moralnye, sayangilah kedua ibu bapa anda... :D :D

caluk@cencaluk said...

sayangi lah kedua ibubapa selagi mereka hidup :-)

cHeRyNa PiReS said...

imHeppie:
---> ala ciannye...nanti raya balik kg k!

MrsFaiz:
---> betul...entri sempena raya. Alhamdulillah...ramai gak dpt maksud tersirat:)

cencaluk:
---> terima kasih atas nasihat tuh:)

~♥ cik intan® said...

.sis
.my b n sepet tu d same person ek?
.penah jd ex ke?
.n skng bck 2gether?
.heeeee so sweet~

cHeRyNa PiReS said...

yup..the same person...tp kitowang kawan je sekarang, dik:)