Tuesday, September 22, 2009

sha: what's wrong with baju kurung?


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I came to work wearing my dark maroon baju kurung. It was Friday. The "baju" was plain with kain batik Sarawak as the "kain". Nobody said anything about the baju. But this man said this to his friend (in front of me),

"Dia ni pakai baju raya ke pergi kerja..."

I didn't take note of what he was saying. I knew from his tone that he was making fun of me. As usual.

The second time I came to work wearing a baju kurung was again on Friday. It was purple in colour and it was plain.

"Apasal datang kerja macam mak datin ni?" he asked me.

I just kept quiet about what he was asking (because it was not a question, it was a statement).Actually, I was a bit mad at him. Nobody said anything about my baju kurung. He just loved to make fun of me.

If you're going to say that he liked me, he didn't. (because I knew there was an idea saying that "if the person teases you, he likes you" that kind of thing). This clearly wasn't the case.

He just loved to make fun of me. The way he was talking to me was like as if I was a typical minah kampung who had no right to be in the city. He would condemned my appearance, my language proficiency and most definitely, my ideas (and my blog too!)

But I remained silent about the way he was treating me. I have my own judgment of men. The ones who loved to gossip was definitely not my taste. I detest a person who was selling stories about others. So, I put a gap between me and him every time he was near me.

Since he loved to hear others laughing at me while he thought he was making fun of me, I ignored the man totally. Why should I bother? He was not handsome, he looked smart but he was not, he was not macho (because he laughed like a girl). He had no appeal at all.

I actually thought he was nice until I saw his true colour. I was not that judgmental until the person himself threw me into the war.

One day, I looked at all my baju kurung in the cupboard and I wondered,

"What's wrong if a girl wants to wear a baju kurung to work?"

I was neither a sequin maniac nor a satin/silk lover. The baju kurung was moderate. Most of my baju kurung are either linen, cotton or plain chiffon. Some might say that I'm lack of decorations.

What the hell was wrong with it?

Even Orkid wore baju kurung in Sepet. She was talking in English, she was smart. That is just a simple example. How about Zetti Akhtar, Siti Hasmah, or Rafidah Aziz?

Now, I'm wondering what the guy was wearing this raya. If he was wearing Baju Melayu, that was very hypocrite of him. As someone who makes fun about his own race; he shouldn't be wearing that, don't you think? (will still remember his statement stated how different he was compared to the other Malays - he said his mentality was totally different but I used to wonder what was it because apparently he loved gossiping too much!)

Perhaps he would go abroad. He was proud when he told me several times about his family being in Europe and things like that (which was not impressive at all for me. Your own country is the best!). This worldly things are not supposed to effect me, but he hurt my feelings by making fun of me. And the BAJU KURUNG.

Perhaps he would just going to brag about his expensive jeans (without realising that I didn't payattention his "engineered" Levi's or his limited edition Converse). A Mat Kelate will find a similar one at cheaper price and definitely would look better than him. I guess he should look at the mirror. (I'm just being honest - if he reads the blog, at least I've said it)

I don't mind if my baju kurung looks "kampung" or looks "raya" or even "datin". I don't mind if it's not expensive because that is not how I price my pride.

What most important about my raya was my originality as a Malay besides being a Muslim. My parents were with me for raya (guess I had to pity the guy). They were my fashion consultant. He did not realised that when he was condemning me, he was actually condemning my parents. That was the reason why I was unhappy with what he did.

So, what's wrong with baju kurung?

Nothing.

So, tell me...

What's your baju kurung/kebaya colour this year?

* I'm using my Lavender Linen Mist to iron my linen and cotton baju kurung today! I think I'm in love (with the smell) :)

19 comments:

sonata anak kancil said...

in past years, i used to wear baju kurung with jahitan smebat tangan ( orang Johor )- kalau tak ,macam tak pakai baju kurung....nowdays....
kebizian teramat sangat kalau nak jahit sembat tangan alamat tak pakai baju baru la....

shahmi said...

sapekah jejaka itu....??

~♥ cik intan® said...

.bengong nye kak laki tuuu
.mesti die lum kawen n for sure takdek soang pompuan pown nk kat die
.kite pun x suke laki yg suke gosip
.euwwwwwwww
.sooooo disgusting~
*muntah*

.kite ade gk kwn yg mcm tu
.in my case, die suke nk show off bajet die hi-cls pkai branded2 bagai, tp pdhal makbapk kt kmpung susah, keje sawah etc
.sgt x sedar diri
.pity to her/him and poor their parents

.sabar je sis :)

Ayu said...

lelaki mcm tu kan sha... just nk tarik perhatian je tu... x der modal nk suh org layan dia.. so dia wat la lawak yg blum tentu lawak..

out of topic -->> thn depan dtg la raya kat umah kampung.. mmg gila nya banyak lauk... lauk yg pertama skali abis ialah.. lauk gulai daging salai ngan mangga muda..

manje said...

hehe..
sis, bestnye lau that men yang tegur sis tu read blog sis..
dapat sis bagitau die indirectly,sebab lau nak cakap depan-depan memang tak lalu la kan nak pandang muka dia..
huhuuh
;p

Ili Saharudin said...

hai sis~lelaki cam tu sebenarnya nak tarik perhatian.n somehow jealous dgn penampilan u..he just making fun of himself..very dumb.. hahahah

anyway..me this year same wit u..linen n cotton..dark purple baju kurung wit pinkish little flowers..hehe..


hope u had a great raye~

azzaliena suziantie feisal said...

what the heck !!

is it wearing baju kurung wrong???
if it was wrong why we have to wear it in school..even though in college we will look formal n nicer if we wearing it...

gurl with baju kurung make that gurl ayuu n beautiful laaahh...

haih...
nasib die bukan kenal me..
nasib tak kena sembuuurrr..hahahaha

Adila said...

that guy totally lupa daratan!! hahaha!!
didn't he know that even mat saleh pun puji our baju kurung/kebaya? he totally not up to date langsung!

seriously.. a lot of Malaysian, on their graduation ceremony kat oversea pun pakai baju kurung!

you know what.. when he tegur you pakai baju kurung on friday patutnya bedal je dia cukup2
ckp.. hari ni kan hari JUMAAT; hari mulia, lagi elok jaga penampilan betul2 sempena menghormati hari Jumaat. try tanya dia, dia pegi smayang Jumaat ke tak? Pakai topi ke time smayang nnt? ye la kan, kalau pakai songkok/kopiah nnt dia nmpak "kampung" pulak :P hehe patutnya kasi dia terasa balik je. tak sedar diri betul!

my baju kurung this yr is brown :D

Neeza Shahril said...

lorrr.. apa yang peliknya pakai baju kurung.. sangat sopan, tak mendedahkan aurat, unlike kebaya ketat and of course other fancy dressess kan..

baju akak tahun ni color merah bunga2, biru bunga2, purple plain and hitam bunga kuning.. eh! banyak lah pulak... hahahaha!!!

Quiyah said...

oih, that is the dumbest statement i've ever heard from a guy, gile ke hape?

yg megahkan sgt Levi's tu sgt apsal? Levi's tu bukannye budaya kiter pon.. tu nampak sangat macam beruk dapat cincin..

tak reti nak menghargai budaya sendiri, megahkan sgt budaya org..

Even mat saleh pon kagum tgk kiter. bahlool! (i wish he read this!)

cHeRyNa PiReS said...

SAK:
---> sha pon dulu suke baju sembat sbb acik tukang jahit tuh org johor...die mmg akan sembat. tp bila acik tuh dah tak jahit lagi, nak suruh tukang jahit lain sembat...sangat mahal! and sha setuju sangat...nak sembat nieh mmg makan masa:)

intan:
---> sbnrnye perangai kemnggosip seorang lelaki itu sangat pelik. kalau dia gossip benda lain takpelah...tp benda2 kecik nak gossip...macam tak brape pandai lah...

ayu:
---> dia memang suka buat lawak yang tah hape2...kadang2 rasa panas sangat hati nieh...

manje:
---> memang tak selera! hahaha...dia pernah masuk blog nieh dan gossipkan blog nieh. sha harap jugak dia baca pasal mende nieh...biar dia tahu apa sha rasa...

ili:
---> same taste ke...? yeayyy!!! cantiknye...my perberet kaler lak tuh...linen mmg best kan! rasa sangat humble dan simple...dan yg paling penting comfortable. tp ade gak yg tak suka:P

cHeRyNa PiReS said...

azza:
---> that's my point! maybe sebab dia dah tua so dia tak ingat zaman sekolah kena pakai bajun kurung (maybe mase dia lahir semua org pakai skirt). Ntahlah. maybe dia tak suka baju kurung kot...atau tak suka sha...that's why semua yg sha pakai, salah je kat mata dia...

adilla:
---> sis, maybe masa kat london dia tak jumpa org yg pakai baju kurung macam u. pernah gak sound balik...tp lepas tu dia jadi defensive tak tentu arah...so buat ape i nak join kebodohan dia kan?

kak neeza:
---> ambooiii...banyaknya baju! ada purple plain lagi...waaa..nak pinjam lah:) brape arilah kak neeza pakai baju raya nieh yee..

Q:
--> dia banyak duit Q...semua benda limited edition. beli barang semua ribu raban...so, aku nieh tak kelas pada dia. dia mungkin bergaul dengan mat salleh yg tak puji baju kits:)

FdausAmad said...

nih apesal ada logo angsa lemas kat bawah kanan ni?,
kehkehkeh..

Arjuna Qaseh said...

ergh..
baju saya terbakar.
xleh pakai g keje!

Ayu said...

out of topic -- > waa.. sedap tu sha ketam ngan nanas.. mmg suka.. kalau pajeri lagi la suka.. tp wat masa skang nih.. x mkn nenas pun.. takut..

mmg duk kat kota.. tp x brape nk kenal org kampung la.. hehhe..

Uncle Lee said...

Hi Cheryna, you just dress as you like. You dress for yourself, not for anyone.
And ignore that person....obviously he can't spell the word, 'gentleman', and its not nice making a girl uncomfortable with remarks infront of others.
You just go have fun.....

But I will say this, you certainly look very nice in your purple baju....
and that smile of yours will make the moon rise an hour early.
Selamat hari raya, best regards and keep a song in your heart, Lee.

cHeRyNa PiReS said...

fdaus:
---> uikss...angsa tuh angsa kesayangan sha tau...jgn marah ngan dia:)

Arjuna Qaseh:
---> kenapa terbakar? bawak gi bakar lemang ke?

uncle lee:
---> thanks uncle. i wish the guy will read your comment because that was my sentiment right from the start:)

thanks for the compliment too! that was an old picture of mine:)

t.a.c.a said...

kebaya putih for raya this year.. a white baju krung with brown small flowers for 3rd raya and pink baju kurung for 4th raya!! nothing's wrong with baju raya :P

cHeRyNa PiReS said...

t.a.ca.
---> wowww...that's a lot...i wish i have the same number for my baju raya:)