Saturday, January 23, 2010

sha: chubby

Are you chubby?

or

Are you fat?

Chubby or fat - people associated this with negativity. I was chubby since I was small. I mean, yes...there were times when I was 48 kg. But there were times when I was more than that.

My late grandfather from my mum's side was fat. We called him Atok Gomok.

My grandmother from my father's side is fat. I called him Wan Wok.

Relatives from both sides came in different shapes and sizes.

Yet, I received this comment from both sides.

"Kakak tembam ikut Atok Gomok dia. Lagipun adik-beradik ibu dia ada yang size besar macam....toott...tottt..toooott..." (lets censor the name because I don't want anyone to be sensitive over here)

or

"Kau ni dah gomok macam Mak L*** kau. Belah ayah kau memang badan besar-besar...bla....bla...bla...." (I'm censoring again)

Well...

Let's just say that those statements stuck in my head since I was so small. Yes, fatness or chubbiness was not relevant to prettiness. But, why did people relate that to either ibu's or ayah's side. Both are my parents!

I was demotivated.
I was humiliated.
I was hurt.

But then, I grew up remembering this statement too.

"Mano keledek atok tadi?"

Hmmmm....comforting smooth statement from my Atok Gomok.

The scar is still there. I mean, when I keep on comparing my physical coordination and appearance with both families, of course I will hate to look at the mirror.

But then again, this has been the issue for several years.

Twenty eight years ago, the lady with a fat father and the man with a fat mother got married. They produced a baby girl nine months later followed with three sons in years after.

Happy Anniversary to ibu dan ayah.

Thanks for bringing this chubby sweet keledek into this world. A combination from BOTH sides.

Her name is Sha.

28 years...I should heal.

40 comments:

Amieynna Amin said...

i'm fat too..
org pon selalu ckp..
saya gemuk sbb die tu, sbb die ni gemuk..

sweet citer ni!

a kl citizen said...

assalammualaikum sha

orang chubby ni, biasanya hatinya baik

~Kak AZZ~ said...

samo la kito Sha....

Gomok pun gomok la....janji tak kacau idop org....

Keledek gorengpon sodappp....Makan paneh2 la....hehe....

Hepi anniversary to parents Sha...

sya said...

sha...
sya pun sama juga..
baru kawin, maintain lagi.
lepas ada anak, terus naik bagai di pam2..
memang pedih telinga dengar orang mengata.
tapi, dalam hati fikir, yang penting aku sihat, jadi lah.. :P

Pocket said...

a kl citizen diatas kater org chubby selalunya baik...
pocket ngan hormatnyer membangkang,
sebab pocket tidak baik..
tapi pocket chubby:D

chubby and relating it to your parent?
well that is good actually,
cause they're actually not blaming u,
but blaming the genetic.
u cant do anything wit genetic isnt it?
they might as well say ..
'its inevitable'

but if our chubbiness got our bad eating habit as the root...
then its our fault right?
as they are saying...
'stop being a pig and eat like a human once a while will ya, its 11pm and u'r having your maggi with two eggs and a 1.5litre of coca cola to finish right after'

even though am doing it right now, but i am still hurt with the above sentence.. heheheh:D

Pocket said...

owh!! almost forgot to wish your parent happy anniversary, can i call them to wish them instead? :D

'abah, ibu.. happy anniversary and thanks for having sha in your life :D'

gitu gitu... huhuuuuu!!!

blogresipi.com said...

Happy anniversary to your parents Sha... may all happiness keep coming to their way :)

Kujie said...

suweet macam keledek bila sha buat post utk parents mcm ni

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zeqzeq said...

berisi,

bila ada pertemuan kenduri;

"itu belah anaksaudara..mesti belah isteri dia..lemak..patutla"

"oo belah adik ipar belah isteri"

oo patutla tembandebab>>lasernya dia..


"ooo dia belah-belah untie isterinya" oo patulaputih melepak..(nakalnya mata insan ini)

antara Fakta yang boleh diambil kira.,termasuk pertukaran hormon ke atas suaminya hhee juga jadi berisi..hhuu

atty's said...

happy wedding anniversary to mama & ayah sya ..

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Super Nia Hana said...

hmm...lumrah..
watashi pun chubby
sering menjadi usikan yg kenkadang menyakitkan hati..

~LP Lum~ said...

salam kak sha~

hehehe.. sy pun same size like u kak sha.. dah penat dah tlinga nie dok tdah apa yg dorg ckp.. dlu ye ra skit atie, but now dah xkisah dah pun.. gasak ar korg nak ckp apa pun.. :)

ps : epy belated annyversary 2 mkcik n en tuan tnah Zam... ;)

manje said...

chubby is huggable sis
and i bet u have a sweet voice
weee...jelesss jeless
hehhehhe~

Cik Qemm said...

kak sha,

dulu qemmal pun chubby.smpi kawan2 ade yg panggil chub/chubby. but i think the word chubby is proper than fat. or it just me?
:P

anyway, happy anniversary to kak sha's parents :D

bendul said...

taper sha..

bendul suka orang chubby..
comel n sweet macam keledek..

hehehe..

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ashley said...

Never mind la Sha..
Bentuk ni pun Allah yang jadikan!!
Enjoy being yourself!!

Lan Bingka said...

Selamat hari ulangtahun kepada pakcik dan makcik..;)

zaradgreat said...

hehehe
happy anniversary to ur parents!
=D

dotblogspotdotkom said...

lamo den tak masuk sini eih.... apo la agaknyo cite ekau nih.... huhuhu mmg tak menahan....

pakcik pun pelik.. seme orang suka pada teddy bear @ teddy pooh.... kata mereka ianye cute sangat....

tapi bila yg bersaiz over XL cuba mendekati mereka.... mereka mula menjauhkan diri... kenapa?.. teddy tu apa boleh bikin?... mende x bernyawa....

ntah le.. pakcik pun x paham...

izan said...

sha

come lar gitu....

zino said...

yang penting sihat, ceria, gumbira, tenang, sabar , mm apa lagi...

Signorina Syima said...

sweet keledek....

kekekeke

tp yg penting u bukan spoil brat... kan syg??

Cik Biol said...

argghhh dah start menulis kembali ye..sori tak perasaan tak pe nanti kejar balik hehe

Kapten Luffy said...

yg ptg hati baik :)

iza~de~bintang said...

Iza pun memang "sihat" sejak kecil. dulu masa ngaji ada gak yg cakap "cuba kurus sikit, baru lawa" adoi macam ler chubby tak leh lawa..huhu. tapi tak kisah lah, asal kita sihat, gembira dan senang hati, mari raikan kehidupan :)

lamanya sha tak update yer.

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Anonymous said...

Dear kakak,

I understand your feelings. I went through the fat phase too. And you know la kan how 'outspoken' our family is. It can be brutal sometimes, no, MOST of the time. And they keep on reminding you too. Haha. Darn.

And yeah, we're emotionally scarred from all those you-are-so-fat comments. But hmmm... I dont think they're aware of the effect of their words. I still remember the piercing comments to this day.

Btw, it's not true that you've always been fat. I went thru old photos two days back. Ada je gambar kakak kurus!


Shasha

Adila said...

mentality org kita nak wat camne
as long as tak obess yg nanti makan diri, it should be fine

be healthy is the best one
i got pretty normal BMI and people called me gemuk

so i'm not bothered with them anymore
i mean.. wasn't there a time in the past where org "gemuk" means org tu cukup mkn n rich? hehe

when org dok ckp i gemuk or whatnot i'd ask them..
"ape ko pduli? ade soh ko tanggung makan minum aku?"

then terdiam diorg n said.. "chill la weh..."

haha
it's not a good subject to bring up when guy friends are talking to their girl friends xD

Kak Long Mawar Merah said...

Chubby sweet keledek memang sweet...

Happy anniversary to Sha's ayah & ibu.

Kak Long Mawar Merah said...

Chubby sweet keledek memang sweet...

Happy anniversary to Sha's ayah & ibu.

zino said...

salam hujung minggu..

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Merissa K. said...

oh cik kak sayang,
its about time for another update, dontcha think?

:)

faz_e said...

huuu~ saya gemuk!!
++

~0~ said...

dalam lagi penting dari luar

Quiyah & Hasrul said...

sha, mane ko ni, lame gile tak update blog..
winduuuu!

Adry said...

saya..... both... hehehe