Friday, May 21, 2010

sha: be a gentleman...open the door for me!

Originally uploaded by UGArdener
Situation #1
After a meeting, I held my Alvin and Chipmunk organiser in my arms while arranging the arrays of papers on the table. I was the only woman in the meeting. Two of three men went out for the next meeting. It was me and him in the room and both of us were about to go out.

I opened the door and he stepped out first. Then he left me in the room without helping me to carry the documents whatsoever. I had to hold everything in my arms while holding the door for myself.

He didn't even say thank you.

I thought, "What the hell? He is younger than me and this is Malaysia. Bukan negara mat salleh!"

I just let it be.

That was not the first time. Several occassions passed and he never opened the door for me.

Situation #2
There was a box of heavy stuff in my room which needed to be brought to the store. I had to use the trolley but the box was too heavy. I looked at him and he was still doing his work. I was carrying the heavy box with my female assistant and he didn't even asked or looked at us.

Then our boss asked us,
"Boleh angkat ke tu?"

I said, "Insya-Allah."

But we were actually struggling. Boss couldn't helped us. He was about to go for a meeting. Before he left, he said, "Suruh si King Kong tuh tolong korang."

I went back inside and asked him, "Tolong boleh tak? Kotak tu berat. Boss suruh kitorang mintak tolong awak..."

He looked at us briefly and continued his work.

Eventually, one fat lady and one skinny girl had to carry the heavy box. The tall and healthy young man aged 25 sat there - pretended nothing happened.

Situation #3
My assistant wanted to go home at 8.30pm and nobody was around. He was about to go to his motorbike. They were supposed to take the same route.

So, I asked him nicely,
"Boleh tolong jalan dengan dia sampai ke bawah? Kesian dia balik sorang."

He looked at me and frowned.

"Buat apa?" he asked dumbly.

I felt like knocking his head.

Dumb-ass.

Situation #4
We were staying back so I went out and bought some roti canai. It was meant to be for my assistant. But since he was there, I bought for him too.

I bought three pieces of roti canai and invited him to eat.

As expected, he took 2 pieces of roti canai before leaving the last one for my assistant.He didn't invite her, he brought his own plate and he left that one last piece unattended.

When my assistant wanted to eat, that last piece was cold and too chewy.

He saved his stomach first.

This person was no longer working with me. So, this is not an office talk, okay. But I have a question to you, folks.

Am I the only person who thinks that he is rude and ungentleman?
Or is he normal?

20 comments:

atEe said...

tak boleh buat laki la org camtuh..
huhu

a kl citizen said...

laki macam tu ramai la kat malaysia ni..
keliling kelalang ada, sha

Daun Bidara said...

ramai org gini keliling kita

mier@merr said...

ceh...org itu mcm pn ada ka?? sgt tidak gentlemen n tidak berbudi bahasa...

Adila said...

...here i am thinking org malaysia is sgt beradab sopan... AS IF!

mat saleh is not as rude as that; unless its the rude one la kan~
normal mat saleh would open the door for you.. seriously!

a few times already profs that i jumpa dpn pintu in my department; he bukak pintu; and saw me berdiri dpn pintu as well (he nak masuk, i nak kluar)
instead of him jalan dulu, he asked me to jalan first

...so what i can conclude is..
young people sure act selfish ;)

aBoi said...

lelaki tu tak normal la..
sombong betul...nyampah je dengar..

lelaki normal yang paling tak gentleman pun akan tolong bukak pintu if nampak girl bawak barang nak lalu kat pintu..

dotblogspotdotkom said...

perkara macam nih selalu berlaku... kalau kat tpt bahagian pacek nih.. al-hamdulillah.. seme membantu.. x mintak bantuan pun.. mereka akan bantu.....

tp unit lain.... dah lemas.. air paras hidung pun masih boleh lepak lagi.... depa tu gile kot.. huhuhuhuhuhu

sweet-luv said...

he's lacking of common sense la.. kan benda2 tu biasa jer, normal la.. bukan sampai berpeluh pun nak pegangkan pintu tu..

hesh.. biasa 'he' tu.. maybe he feel so 'berada di atas/hebat' thing kot dat he feel doesn't need to help others kot..

he is not normal definitely.. ^_^

Nadya ©™ said...

Adoyaiiii..teruk gila perangai dia..
Selfish,takde common sense & bla³..
Malang la sape jadi gf/isteri dia

kakpah said...

mungkin tak dapat ajaran betul masa kecik2 dulu...

Drama Mama said...

men! they'll only be nice to u when the want to hit on u. grrrrrrrr!!!!

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zaradgreat said...

not normal kak sha
but selfish.

Dee said...

wui...ni jenis ego bapak besar kt kepala dia ni sha..malanglah sapa kahwin ngan dia..hehehe..

Lan Bingka said...

kalau sha penah bergaduh dgn dia, mungkin tu la sebabnya.
tapi kalau tak, memang tak guna punya officemate la..

intanurulfateha (◡‿◡✿) said...

.heh, ignore je sis laki cmtuh!

~ mizzAmy ~ said...

he is totally RUDE!! amy paling benci org yg macam tuh. pentingkan diri sendiri jer. nak pentingkan diri sendiri pun berpada-pada lah jugak. nih memang sangat melampau. bab makan, laju je makan and amik over the dose pulak tuh. sepak kang....

Cik Qemm said...

tak gentle betul.

okay, first scenario sometimes org terlepas pandang. so it happens.

tp bile kak sha dah bukak mulut mintak tolong and he just doing nothing, itu tak gentle. kot ye pun ade keje ckp la.

lepas tu org dah blanje mkn pun perangai cmtu jugak??

eyy!!!

ungu said...

sorry to say this, tp lelaki msia mmg less gentleman indeed compare to foreign guys. tp x bermakna depa jahat... cuma i think lelaki msia ni malu kot nk jd gentleman or show a nice gesture towards woman. depa takut pmpn perasan yg depa ada hati lak. dlm erti kata yg lain, poyo x bertempat.

Len Inouie said...

I've read this one statement ' If you want to be treated like a princess, behave like a princess'.

Like snow white ar? Hahaha... jom!

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