Tuesday, November 13, 2012

1. cilaka 2. banjingan 3. sialan

The pigeons and the car. 
“What your problem is, you're all just a raindrop. One of an endless number. If only you'd just accept it, things would be so much easier. Say it with me: I am a drop in the ocean. I am neighbour, nation, north, and nowhere. I am one among many and we all fall together. Or maybe I'm just a rat with wings and I don't know what I'm talking about.”
- Stephen Kelman, Pigeon English


Holiday. Well, I'm not going to talk about Deepavali, if that is what you are expecting. I would like to talk about the picture above.

This picture was taken when I had my breakfast with my parents. The rain was pouring down heavily in Seremban. Astro was not the first thing to look forward to.It was not at its best at all. I subscribed Seeking A Friend for The End of The World but did not managed to watch it because nobody liked Keira Knightley except for myself. Well, I have three brothers and they preferred Russell Crowe, of course:)

While I was eating my Maggie Goreng, I listened to my parents talking about the rainy days. There were several things which could not be done when it was raining. One of the most obvious activity was...
Washing the Car 

It was all sunny and dry. You washed your car. You even waxed the tyres. Suddenly, it started to drizzle - just good enough to make your car appeared unwashed?

or

Have you came across a situation when you just sent your car for a good wash and on the way back, a ripe mango fell on your car and created an orange spot?

You could guess what happened to my car in that picture. Splotches of bird droppings fell on the roof and some on the door. Worst, some fell on the windows. The colour of my car was...white.

For your information, I just washed my car prior to this day when the picture was taken :(

Should I blame the rain? Should I blame the pigeon? Or should I blame the mamak who fed the pigeons? Or should I blame the parking lot? Or my own car?

Should I blame God?

Now, my point here is very simple. Sometimes it is hard to explain why things are the way they are. Sometimes it is also hard to explain why some people are the way they are. Some people are just born annoying. Some people want to be nice but end up being nasty. Some people are just bad. Some people just hate us.

Whatever it is, there are times when we should also ask ourselves why are they hating us? Why are there too many people saying the same thing over and over? Why are there people who tweet us with vulgar words? Why are there people who think that we write crap? Why are there people who made fun of our physical appearance? Or handbag? Or bangles? Or even our butt?

Sometimes, we are the ones who ask for it. Sometimes we are the ones who seek for bad intention. Sometimes we are the ones who seek for cheap attention.

I read tweets and I read blogs. There was one blog which caught my attention. I was a follower of this blog for quite sometime. It has been years actually. Ever since it has first started, I have been the reader - with or without the comments. I saw the development - the number of followers, the post and the blogger herself.

There have been a great achievement. Personally I felt that it was good and incredible. There were changes in looks and style. There were news to be shared. There was a huge increase in the number of followers. 

Yet, one thing never changed about the blog posts:
1. This group is banjingan.
2. That person is a sialan.
3. The person over there is cilaka.

Now, I'm asking you this: 

If there are too many people who are not satisfied with you or there is a list of people that you hate and you keep hating, who is the right person to blame?

The worst part of all this is the drama. One day I am reading, "mengetap bibir menahan kesakitan", the other day I am reading "hidup ini baik-baik saja tanpa sialan seperti mereka". Oh come on! I love reading but not all books are thriller with splotches of blood or American Pie's semen splotches.

When I stopped writing this blog for a while, I told Deekuntum that I would like to have a positive aura whenever I'm writing. Stress at work, break ups or argument would only make things sour for the reader. People will comment, "Sabarlah, ragam manusia" for a post but not several posts later.

Besides, since today is a day of Deepavali, don't you think that it is better for us to leave all the drama to Padayappa? :)

20 comments:

Bui Junaidi said...

ASAM GARAM KEHIDUPAN MCM TU LAH..HARI NI KITA BLAME ORG,ESOK ORG BLAME KITA..DAN HAL NI AKAN BERLANJUTAN SAMPAI BILA2..PERKARA BIASA DLM HIDUP KAN..HUHU..WPUN MENYAKITKAN TP HAL2 MCM NI LAH YG BUATKAN HIDUP KITA NI PENUH CORAK...LAGI BYK CORAK LAGI THRILLL..CEWAH,PJG PULAK KOMEN KAK BUI NI..^_^

Nizam.Ariff said...

persoalan yang berkaitan... sampai bila kita nak hidup begini?

Remy hazza said...

dunia...itulah lumrah nya... penuh pancaroba...... penuh dgn halangan ...dan penuh dgn ragam manusia.......
apa yg membezakan kita dan dia adalah pegangan kita......
sesuatu yg berlaku ada penyebabnya......cuma kita perlu bertahan atau ..........

Jna marcello said...

yups btul la kak sha..kereta na lagi laa terok sgt..tp betul jugak..ape kak Sha bgtw..nak salah kan sape kan? keta na bukan taik burung je ade pasir lumpur ehh memacam laa ade..padahal na sebulan 2 kali gi cuci keta..tp sbb kan jln ulang alik pg kerja jln memang lecak..Na nak salah kan sape? baru na terfikir smua ni..

HEBAT ENTRY NIE~!

Kengkawan said...

1. jarang cuci kereta.
2. x faham bab akhir, coz niat berblog x sama hehe.

Rapunzeel Cikilolo said...

betul kak sha, melalui hari yang sempit mungkin boleh diceritakan secara sekali sahaja. untuk tujuan tenangkan fikiran.

kita tak boleh jadi positif sepanjang masa. tapi kita boleh kurangkan negatif dalam penulisan kan?

Syara Mohammad said...

Sugar!

Happy Diwali my dear...

So, I know you read tweets even you didn't appear there. I know you follow all the updates. Congrats!

And about that person, I seems not interested. About her talking bout how many people hate her. Insult her. Looked down on her. What is that for to tell people? Just to seek some sort of sympathy? Nah!

And about rainy days and 'comot' car, I usually clean it. Not wash it. Senang cerita, lap kereta. Hari-hari lap kereta. Sebab? Penuh dengan tapak kaki kucing dan bulu kucing. Phew!

And love, I like you the way you are. Kena nyanyi Bruno Mars ke achaner? Haha!

Be happy sugar! Stay happy!

Len Inouie said...

Hmmmm....

I was thinking about the same thing. Not exactly la.. but kind of related.
You posted first. Great!

Macam perasaan dikongsi bersama hujan plak. Haha..

Can't blame anybody. Can't blame the bird. Can't blame..
So.. acceptance is crucial.

Wak Gelas™ said...

wak pon kekadang nk blame the rain laa.. uuuHHuu

boni kacak said...

kalau nak salahkan otak kita sendiri boleh tak??hehehe

baby comel said...

I got ur point!
Okey, kalau minoriti yg benci kita, tak suka kita, menyampah dgn kita rasanya maybe problem tu from them. mereka yg punya masalah.
tapi kalau hampir semua org majoriti kebanyakan org tak suka kita, means that kita sendri yg ada problem.. apa2 pun check balik diri, setiap org punya kelemahan, yg baik ambillah utk dijadikan panduan.. yg keruh tu, buanglah..

~thanks Sha, i like all ur words above! meaningfullll :)

Rai Ourkizuna said...

pernah saya terbaca quotes yg kata.. blames doesnt make any different in your life..

pada saya mudah je.. sialan bajingan yg duk kutuk kat saya ke apa ke (kalau ada la) tak mengurang atau menambah sesen pun duit saya.. kalau ada yg nak kata saya mata duitan pun.. saya kata.. mmg saya mata duitan.. ada ke org yg tak suka duit dlm dunia ni.. :)

MAY said...

nk bt mcm mne.normal khdpn..:)

4feet8 said...

fuh, baru balik dari perjalanan yg jauh rini.. mm..selalu time basuh kereta misti hujan turun..ni pun dah bape lama tak basuh kete tu sbb musim hujan..

Si Matatajam said...

Donia donia..macam2 ragam manusia ni..tak semua org suka kita dan kita pun tak suka semua org...

hainom OKje said...

OKje agree dgn statement Babycomel tu... Tapi jangan jadikan alasan untuk mematahkan semangat yg ada.... Setiap manusia tu ada kekurangan dan kelebihan yang menjadi pelengkap antara satu sama lain!

Barulah 'life' namanya Sha!!.. Tak mo sedih.. sedih... eh!

LydSunshine said...

Hidup mmg saling berkaitan. Satu perkara berlaku akan melibatkan perkara lain. Tak mungkin satu-satu hal terjadi tu akan terjadi tanpa melibatkan yang lain. Cuma, cara kita terima setiap perkara yg berkaitan itu menentukan sama ada perkara tu best ke tak best, rasa nak salahkan org ke tak. Itu la kisahnya...

Pocket said...

i kinda have that 'DEMAM' once,
where all the words that i tried to form on my low pixel monitor turns out negative.

its like i can imagine myself typing in the dark with indian ink flowing out of my eyes as tears. and the walls seems to have black molds with roaches lurking here and there... small small devils eyes are flying here and there all red and full of hatred whispering to my ears foul words.. with their revolted breath exhaling poems of anger and fury.

How to type happy story la like that sis? and so i stopped.
I guess she chose to keep on writing intstead. yes.. surely memboringkan.. ohh

atty's said...

semalam, mmg niat nak basuh kete yg dah 2 minggu kot tak cuci..tapi ujan lebat....

Kesuma Angsana said...

it's normal for kehidupan kita. Berlaku saban hari dipersekitaran kita sebenarnyer! belajarlah menerima aja jua dgn ikhlas ye